Dating two guys at the same time
They are happy to do it themselves, but when the tables are turned they quickly lose their mojo.
Their insecurities make them try to force you into exclusivity.
If you want to supercharge your dating life and give yourself the best chance of meeting Mr.
Right, here are 9 rock-solid reasons multiple dating works.
You'll make better informed, more rational decisions about partners who are worth your exclusivity.
You can never assume exclusivity if it's not been stated.
Like a speed user, the more hits you get, the more you focus your attention and derive pleasure from their presence alone.
It can even create positive perceptive illusions, literally blinding you to a new lover's negative characteristics. Nor-epinephrine levels rise, giving you the 'high' and sleeplessness of new love, while there is strong evidence that serotonin levels in new lovers resemble those found in clinically diagnosed obsessive compulsive sufferers.
If you'd been dating them exclusively from the start, you would have missed out on this benefit. They're a key factor in self-worth and personal happiness.We're literally wired, via several neurotransmitters, to focus and obsess on new love – even if it isn't good for us.Dating multiple people flattens out these neurotransmitter peaks and troughs over multiple men.Growing your social skills while you're single is a gift. When you multi-date, you naturally have less time for one man. You'll challenge him, without trying, in a way that is natural and works. Tell him, “I'm in a 'dating only' mindset, right now.Don't sacrifice this gift for a man until he's earned it. He'll have to earn his way up your priorities list, challenging him in a way he's not used to. I've told myself I would really get to know someone before I commit, so I'm holding myself to that for now.