The whole point of dating
I would say 'dating' is when you are steadily going on dates with someone, not just steadily hooking up with someone.I would say 'dating' is a little more serious and occurs when you both are actually interested in taking the relationship further to a confirmed boyfriend/girlfriend level.— Taylor, 27All right, so if we're looking for a trend here, a few people from this roundup seem to agree with me that dating is the hanging out period that takes place before you're actually in a relationship.I thought I had a pretty good grip on this whole "what does dating mean" thing.I thought it was pretty self-explanatory: "dating" is the act of going on "dates," right? The other day, my friends and I were talking (read: extensively gossiping) about an acquaintance and her new boy.They are all clearly miserable in their relationships, and I have been in the ones I have had in the past. The real question is this: would you rather be single than be in a happy relationship? It is my understanding that journalists frequently misunderstand or intentionally stretch what studies mean in terms of truth value.I think I am intended to be a single, with a few lovers on the side. Aside from that I remember a neuroscience professor in college saying that despite some of the fancy things we have these days humanities stage of brain/behavior investigation is similar to the level of a chimpanzee trying to figure out electronics by tampering with a stereo. I don’t stand in judgment of single people who focus on business and travel and hobbies – I merely point out that when you’re part of a family unit, it’s not all about you anymore. Is it a different happiness than the intoxicating scent of puppy love? But if the rock star life of rotating partners doesn’t sustain itself into your 50’s and 60’s, you may find yourself wishing you had a husband – one man who was with you for the long haul.
These are all questions we need to have answered if we wish to go forward as INFORMED LOVERS. I have also had a few long-term, no strings attached sexual-type relationships, which serve me better than any traditional type of relationship has. Who could blame a girl who doesn’t want to be in a miserable marriage like all her friends? Could you take the radical step of breaking societal conventions and spending your life in a series of good solid 5-year relationships which end the moment they get stale? But if that’s REALLY what you want, you have to ask yourself why aren’t you totally enjoying it and what could make it better.OK, I know I am cynical, jaded, opinionated, bullheaded, miserable, confident, independent, etc…I just wonder why it is that all my ol’ girls are always trying to persuade me to get a man, when I really don’t want one, I think, ok maybe if there were a hot, young vampire nearby it would work, but I doubt it. So, let’s establish that there’s nothing wrong with being single. There’s nothing wrong with being a single woman in her 40’s. Does the intense chemistry wear off after 18 months to 2 years? I guess I am wondering, if scientific research has shown that humans are programmed to be in only short-term relationships, ie 4-7 years, Margaret; In my non-expert opinion I don’t think any given scientist would say that this is “known”.Of course, life has a cute, charming way of making things unnecessarily complicated, so there are about one million different stages you can undergo within the "hooking up" and "dating" stages.But overall, odds are you're doing something that falls under one of the two umbrellas.